The Will to Win

The Will to Win

I’ve been missing for some time now. My apologies to you! But I’m back with a vengeance and I’m finally ready to fully commit to blogging.  Over the past six weeks I have been reflecting on what I wanted concerning family, career, life in general, and how to get used to the changes of adding a blog to it all. It has been a fight for me to figure out what comes first, the blog or a job/career.  I was battling between restarting my real estate career, getting a full-time job, or turning blogging into a business.  Real estate is in my heart, and the simplest conversation about it gets my heart racing.  Though a full-time position would give me needed additional income, it wasn’t the best schedule for my family. Blogging is so new (and complex) to me that I didn’t know how to turn it into a career. After 6 weeks of mental back-and-forth, I have come to the realization that blogging is what I need to do, for many reasons other than money.

The Problem

I had a conversation with my Pastor, and I was explaining to her that I didn’t understand why I wasn’t getting a job.  I had a great resume and was well qualified for most of the positions I applied for. However, I was getting swatted down like a fly at a BBQ. She asked me a simple question: What do you want? My best answer was Real Estate. She said, “Well that’s not happening right now.” Dagger to the heart! There was my problem: I had no real answer. To employers, I must have reeked of desperation and an I-don’t-really-want-to-be-here attitude. I went home determined to figure out what I want in a career. Took me a couple of days and a few random conversations with some friends to figure it out.  I knew I wanted a career that paid at least $50k/year. My husband travels a lot for his job so we wanted something that allowed me to be home by 3pm for the kids. I wanted something that was flexible and allowed me to take time off periodically for special events and travels. When I looked at my list I realized I needed to be self employed. But doing what?


I prayed for clarity and a week later clarity smacked me in the face. It was so clear I could not go to sleep. My heart was racing and my mind was going a hundred miles per minute. I wrote it all down. God was telling me to step up. He wanted me to have an impact on lives. I knew now more than ever I needed to be blogging. Time to put God’s work above all!


There were many reasons why I started blogging.

(a) I saw so many women in pain throughout media and it hurt me to my core. Women were committing suicide, killing their children, or both. It was just one harsh decision after another. I hurt because I wanted to help and didn’t know how. I wanted to show women that they are not alone and we all go through trials. You have to fight in those trials to make it out.

(b) I love giving advice. Not because I am a know-it-all but because I love encouraging others. I love seeing people succeed and grow. I love helping others realize that everything is possible if you believe.

(c) Most importantly, I wanted to share the love of God. He has done such a huge turnaround in my life. I know if He did it for me He can do it for you.


I have been reluctant to put out my six-month review (which was due in June) because (1) I’m not where I wanted to be with the blog, and (2) I felt like I had nothing worthwhile to share.  Even though I did a lot of work behind the scenes, including networking and learning all the tricks of the trade involved in maintaining a blog, I failed to realize that this information was something that could help someone else as well. The whole purpose of the blog is to empower women to conquer their fears and their ‘I cants.’  Yet, I felt like I was failing to achieve this goal. How can I give you advice in an area where I haven’t completely succeeded myself?


I’ve been comparing my blog and its progress with others and the “standards for success” I found in the process of starting the blog.  I needed at least 3 posts a week, so many affiliates, advertising, etc. in order for the blog to be successful. If I was missing one of these “key” pieces of the puzzle, then something was wrong and nothing would work out. Comparison breeds discontent! When I first began, I didn’t pay attention to any of that. I followed what God gave me and I found great success. Well, I’m here today to say that this ends now; failure is no longer an option! God’s plans don’t fail so neither will this blog


The Solution

I’m setting my expectations

1. It will glorify God! I have been wrestling with God for some years on this blog. At the end of 2014 He finally help me realize that He is using me to bless others! I was a willing vessel until I started looking at what I didn’t have, and what I could do to fix it. If we had just a little more income then we could do this and that and maybe even some of this. I put God’s will on the back burner. I needed a microwave (now) solution. Now I will be consistent and excellent in the job has given me. I will give Him my all even if the reality may look different.

2. I will be post once a week until God changes it. Know that you will find new content every Monday… if you don’t then call me out on it!

3. It will inspire women across the world through motherhood, career and spiritual advice.

4. It will be monetized.

Walk in obedience to all that the Lord your God has commanded you, so that you may live and prosper and prolong your days in the land that you will possess. Deuteronomy 5:33 NIV


I have set my expectations and I know He always does exceedingly above all of my desires.


Set your expectations!

God is doing something great in this season.  This is the time; set your expectations.  What do you want to see happen in your life? It is not too late to pick things up and be successful.  Is your work glorifying God in its excellence? Are you letting your light shine? Are you doing all things without mumbling or complaining? I’m praying for clarity, wisdom, purpose, and peace for all of my readers.  What has God been telling you to go forth and do? Don’t hold back, do it today. If you haven’t heard specifics, it is time to get closer to God.  Grow in Him, love Him, pray, read, listen to the word and excel right now where you are.

This is the time!  Don’t let doubt win!  You are a winner!  You are MORE than a conqueror! You have more than enough to make it.  You will succeed! Why? Because you are a God-fearing, God-loving woman. If God is for you, then nothing can be against you! The violent take it by force! It is time to be violent! It is our time! Go forth and conquer! In Jesus’ name, success is the only option!

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    Awesome Article Stan! I’m glad you found your will to win!!!! Shoot….I recently got mine too!!! We can do this! 😊 #52 #best7
    We ALWAYS Win!!! 🏆

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      YES!!! Get it!!! No neighbor left behind. Grace, grace, grace! Favor, favor, favor! We got this!

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